Different, Not Wrong
I believe that if a woman’s heart belongs entirely to God and she doesn’t long for children, she is probably called to childlessness in order to pursue other purposes for God. Beth Moore
A friend sent this quote to me the other day and I have not been able to get it out of my mind since. I’ve shared before how I don’t feel called to have kids, however I haven’t shared the tremendous amount of disapproval I’ve gotten and/or felt from others because of this choice.
I’ve been told things like:
“You can not really know and experience God’s love until you’re a parent.”
“Parenting is the highest calling.”
While I don’t think people’s intentions when they said those things were malicious, they left me feeling inferior and incomplete.
Can others really make that judgment call about my life and what God has called me to?
What if that’s not God’s plan for me?
I think that we find ourselves so bound by societal norms that we can’t imagine different being ok.
We do the same thing (sometimes worse) to those that are single. Our culture suggests that you haven’t arrived until you’ve walked down the aisle. Somehow you’re incomplete.
Whether by choice or by circumstances beyond our control, singleness and childlessness are not wrong. Different, but not wrong.
Be careful what you impose on others. You never know what God has called them to.
** To my family – this post is not directed to you. You have all graciously supported our decision and we are so grateful.