Are You Enough?
There are a lot of special people in my life. People who I want to champion, encourage, coach, mentor and just all around support.
But every once in awhile I realize I am not enough. I can’t be all of the things they need all of the time. There will be moments that they need someone and I can’t be there or don’t even know how to be there. There will be some things that I just can’t be for them.
I’m not talking about being their savior. I know I’m not that. I’m talking about the times where someone else told them exactly what they needed to hear… or someone else listened well and didn’t judge… someone else could understand their hurt, frustration or celebration better than I could.
It doesn’t mean that I don’t have a voice or a place in their life. It just means that I need to understand my role and play that well in the lives of the people around me. I won’t be able to be there for everything. I won’t always be the right person for every moment or situation.
But more importantly, I need to recognize what role I do play and I need to be there to play that role. I can’t miss my moments.
And you can’t miss yours…
There are people in your life who need you.
They need you for the role that only you can play in their life. They need you to be sensitive and aware of the voice you have and not push yourself into places that you need to let others be. They need you to be confident. They need you to be assuring. They need you to bring the wisdom that only you can bring from your unique experience. You are in the lives of others for a reason.
Who has God uniquely given you influence with? Who needs your unique perspective and voice in their life?
You will never be enough for every moment of their life but you are exactly enough when you play the role you are positioned to play.
Such a great reminder. There are definitely times when I want to be everything to someone. I don’t want them to need anyone else. But then I must remind myself that I not want that for my own life so I can’t put someone else in that box.
My mom is such a great example of your post. When I was in high school, I started attending a Sunday school class for high school girls taught by two of the pastors’s wives. One in particular I became very close with and eventually she became a mentor. (She and I still get talk regularly.) My mom could have gotten jealous or mad that this woman was taking that role in my life, but my mom encouraged it. She knew my mentor had experiences and wisdom that could help me in my personal, spiritual, and professional growth that she couldn’t.
Bethany, I love that your mom was such a great example of this for you. That was a perfect story! I should have had you write the post 🙂
I needed this so much today! Thank you!
Thanks for reading and responding Nicci!
Wow you knocked this one out of the ball park. I wish people that I know could read this. Cause sometimes when I don’t need them, they are there and when I do need them they are not there. I pray that I can since I will know when I need to be there and when I don’t need to be there for the people i know.
mmm…such great thought here. Thank you for sharing this. I have been tempted to forget this truth lately…much needed reminder for me.