Merlyn and I were having a conversation the other night that got me thinking…
Me: What special things do you wish that I did for you? (Please note, this was a “G” rated conversation.) I was thinking he would say cook dinner, watch TV with him, go camping with him, etc. Oh no, he drops a bomb:
Merlyn: I just want you to be nice
My thoughts: OUCH! Be nice! That’s all your asking of me! Seriously, are you kidding me? But, he’s right. I come home exhausted, emotionally spent and expecting him to not expect me to do anything; expecting him to understand that I’m tired; expecting him to not get frustrated that I’m irritable. He’s right. I need to be nice.
Me: I’m sorry. Nice should really be a ‘standard feature’. You shouldn’t have to ask for it.
So I got to thinking…
Nice is one of those things in a relationship that should just be a given. I don’t think it should be something you hope for or receive occasionally. It shouldn’t be something that comes as an upgrade. Nice should be a standard feature.
What are some other things that you think should be ‘standard features’ in a relationship?